No one gets married with the idea of getting a divorce, but for a variety of reasons, you may find yourself in the position of needing to talk to a lawyer about a divorce. There are so many things to consider before filing for divorce. Especially if there are children involved, you need to make sure that you’ve done everything you can to avoid divorce. Just like you shouldn’t jump into marriage, you shouldn’t jump into divorce. We’ve come up with a list of things to consider before you file for divorce.
If you are considering filing for divorce, does your partner know that you’ve reached this point? If you can not safely speak to him or her about the status of your relationship, you shouldn’t feel compelled to speak to them and put yourself in danger. However, if you can speak to them, do so. Perhaps you can save the relationship with some counseling and a new understanding between the two of you. Even if you do end up getting a divorce, having good communication can make it go more smoothly and less dramatically.
Timing of a Divorce
It may seem to be a contradiction but, while you could say that there is never really a good time to file for a divorce, if you are in a bad marriage, any time is a good time to get out of it. Life is short, and you should be happy in your life. You deserve to be happy and to have a second try at happiness.
There is a saying about divorce and children, “It is better to come from a broken home than to live in one.” This means that, while divorce can be hard on children, living in a house with unhappy parents who are fighting or crying all the time can be worse. You need to think about the safety of the children and whether divorce is going to plunge the children into a life of poverty. Being able to afford to be divorced, and not having to worry about paying for schooling, clothes, and food enables you to move forward with finding our own happiness.
Before you file for divorce, do some soul searching and examine your expectation. Think about what you thought marriage would be like, what it is like for you and what you expect the coming years to be like. Also, think about what the coming years would be like if you got a divorce.
All of this being said, there are marriages that should be ended, and these include physical and mental abuse, serial adultery, and abandonment are just a few items that leave you little choice but to file for divorce. If there is a chance that communication and counseling could change your expectation, give it some time, but if your expectations and the reality are so far apart that you are unhappy, you need to do something. Divorce should not be your first step, but something to consider when other things have failed to increase your happiness and improve the quality of your home life.
Call OMG Law Firm today to discuss if filing for divorce is the right thing for you right now.