When it comes to divorce, there are many variables to consider, so it is not in your best interest to make a fast choice. Unless you’re in an abusive relationship (whether physical, emotional, or economic), it is best to carefully consider your next step. Before moving forward with a divorce, here are the questions you need to ask yourself.
Question #1: Is My Marriage Really Over?
Have your emotions truly diminished or are you just feeling powerless about a marriage problem? If there are still feelings of love and affection, then you should work on the connection before deciding on divorce.
You don’t want to get caught up in an emotional scenario and ultimately realize that you made a mistake. For the good of the relationship, married couples operate together. Both individuals should either commit to altering the relationship’s dynamics or part ways.
If you believe that your marriage is failing, you should consider a consultation with an attorney so that you can plan for a divorce. A divorce may not be your choice but your spouse could choose that option for you and you need to be prepared.
Question #2: What Have I Done To Try To Resolve My Marital Issues?
You may see divorce as a fast solution to your issues; or because of years of anger and resentment, it could be your first idea. But you need to pause and take a moment to make sure that you have done everything in your power to resolve your marital issues and ensure that you are making the best choice for you and your children.
Question #3: Are You Making an Emotional Decision?
Arguments affect everyone involved. If you find yourself constantly arguing, the bad feelings can linger for a bit longer. Do not make any rash decisions if your emotions are high. You may be forgetting all of the good things, which is clouding your judgment.
Question #4: What Is Your Real Motivation to Divorce?
Do you expect a divorce to mean that your spouse is going to start treating you better? Perhaps your spouse will realize what he or she has lost and make the changes he or she needs to make. If so, you are divorcing for the wrong reasons. Divorce will only encourage, not resolve, conflicts. If you simply want the dynamics between you and your spouse to change, you don’t want divorce.
Question #5: Have I Really Considered What Life Will Be Like Once I’m Divorced?
When you feel trapped, divorce may sound like the simplest solution. If you have children, things can get more complicated. Visitation schedules and holidays will have to be negotiated. New living arrangements will need to be made.
The potential addition of step-parents also generates an entirely different set of problems. Watching your children communicate as a family while you are excluded is painful. Many individuals also get a rude wake-up call when they realize that the day-to-day tasks his or her spouse used to do now rest solely on him or her.
Contact an Attorney
Divorce is a response to marriage issues, but it is often not the best response. If you feel hopeless about your marriage, please call our law firm to discuss how we can help you.